Have you ever heard of the Upper Limit Problem?
I hadn’t either until I watched this interview by Susie Moore with Gay Hendricks – author of “The Big Leap”.
But firstly – who are these people:
Susie Moore is a business and life coach.
Gay Hendricks is a psychologist, writer, and teacher in the field of personal growth, relationships, and body intelligence.
As Susie explains in her introduction, “an Upper Limit Problem means we only feel comfortable with things going really well in our lives for a certain period of time. When we hit our set threshold of happiness, something inside us says You don’t deserve to be this happy, and we do something – entirely subconsciously – that cools our bliss and halts our forward trajectory.”
In this interview Gay explains the 4 causes of upper limit problem (we all have at least one):
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Crime of shining
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With success brings other burdens
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Belief that we are being disloyal or abandoning people from our past
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Feeling fundamentally flawed as humans
He also answers the secret to stepping into your genesis zone – the work that only you can uniquely do
and sneaky ways we sabotage ourselves without realizing it, along with so much more.
This is a must watch interview as it resonates with so many titbits, one liners and takeaways as well as “Ah-ha” moments that we can all implement into our lives. And once again, just as James Clear in “Atomic Habits” and Jay Shetty in “Think like a Monk” states – to get into any state, or to make change or in this case, to focus on your genesis zone, do it in baby steps. Otherwise, it becomes overwhelming and doesn’t happen.
Some of the great on-liners for me was:
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Exchange the word “Achieves” and “Accomplish” with “ALLOW”. E.g., instead of “I achieved this today” it becomes “I allowed this today”
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“Mr. Duffy lived a short distance from his body.” This quote from James Joyce in his book “Dubliners” points to how we have moved away from our present moment experience.
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We are only a breath away from our freedom.
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Focus on what you can control rather than what you can’t
